July 3, 2016 § Leave a comment
July! Wow. Literally, half of the year has gone by in a flash. Where is that pause button?!
Anyway, a lot of us start a new year with a list of new years resolutions and since we are on the next half of the year, I wanted to share my progress (and how I’m still making them) on one of the things I told myself I would do.
I think it was late 2012 when I decided I would get into meditation. My first exposure to it was about 10 years ago when a client of mine (an Indian-American woman who had the warmest, prettiest smile ever) taught me how. Total count of meditations for 2012, about 20 times.
The next year, I joined a Vipassana Meditation bootcamp where talking, eye contact and gadgets were not allowed as we were there to learn how to meditate (practice ran for 10- 12 hours daily) for 10 days. Total count for 2013 – around 115.
2014, 38-ish? Ha!
2015, about 120.
As shown, my practice has been a gradual progress. I live and choose the word practice nowadays, it’s so much kinder and doable. Although… now looking at my 6 months result, I’m a little embarrassed. This is my progress of my 4-year practice?! (My self-critical side bobbing its head here… shush.)
Progress is progress. Overall, I’m definitely better at meditating more regularly. Obviously, I can do better and I am and I will. There were times in the past where I would set unrealistic standards – that all or nothing requirement I imposed on myself and then end up dismissing the aspiration because I couldn’t measure up to my own yardstick.
It’s nice to dream (to imagine the “glory” of achieving what it is we want to do or become “effortlessly”) but without considering the process on how to get there based on practical reality and being willing to go through trial and error until we find the way that works for us is a recipe for failure.
I would like to meditate daily – this is my ultimate goal but right now, if I don’t get to, I’ll do it the next day or the next after but I will keep at it whether or not I get to do so each day. The point is to keep getting back on the horse vs. abandoning what I know is good for me just because I miss a day or two or more. Of course if you look closer, the result is also a practice of peaceful, forward movement, of not giving up, of loving kindness towards myself for not giving me a hard time or be too self-critical if I miss a day (or several haha), for allowing myself to be human but also, for not giving myself excuses to stop just because Life got “hectic”. These are after all, the many other lessons learned from meditation.
Here are my suggestions for Progress Continuity:
1. Drop any mind drama of perfection or resistance, (I should have done this weeks ago, I’m so bad…I need a distraction to feel better, I don’t want to face this…vicious cycle of self-sabotage) shush critical thoughts and get back on the horse. Literally, stop those thoughts (or noise) and pick up what you need to do as naturally as you would scratch something that itched (you don’t even have a discussion in your head if you will scratch the sudden itch or put it off) and just go for it.
2. Change “shoulds” to “coulds”. The former is a strict waggy finger while the latter gives space to breathe and be. With “coulds”, we get options versus an obligatory ultimatum that just feels so heavy such that we resist doing the task at hand.
3. Keep things simple. Simplify processes. Life can be already overwhelming enough. Do what you gotta do and aim for good enough.
4. Change it up, spice it up. I’m not sure if it was from a TED talk but someone spoke about plateauing on a goal and then quitting. The speaker said something like, “Take the plateau as a period of rest for the next incline.” We can always get creative when something we have/want to continually do starts to get a bit dull.
5. Keep practicing. Life only stops when we’re dead. Ha! As long as we’re still here, let’s keep practicing, nobody else will do our Life for us. It is up to us, to create or design our lives the way we would love it.
September 24, 2013 § Leave a comment
Have you ever taken a personality test? Just for fun, take these free tests below and see what you find out about yourself or others.
Carl Jung Personality Test: http://similarminds.com/jung.html
Want to know which Celebrity is the same as your Type? http://www.celebritytypes.com/
Here’s another interesting find, the Enneagram Test. I came across this just recently and honestly, it blew my mind (though felt a tad peeved – I felt like a robot that came with a manual…).
enēəˌgram (noun) – An enneagram is a nine-sided figure used in a particular system of analysis to represent the spectrum of possible personality types.
Enneagram Test: http://similarminds.com/test.html
Read your Enneagram results here: http://www.enneagraminstitute.com/
Overall, I think any information that helps us understand ourselves and others better is always a good thing to explore. Doing so can improve the dynamics of any relationship whether it be on a personal or professional level.
July 16, 2013 § Leave a comment
Yes. I’m a Professional Organizer who help people organize their space and set up easy systems that work for them. Needless to say, being organized is what I “should” be with my own things and space.
A couple of months ago, I’ve had it with my useless internet provider and decided to change vendor. I called them up and was told that upon termination of service I would have to return the modem etc. and that was fine by me.
Sort of dreading having to kneel down and insert myself in a tight corner so I can identify which of the multiple cables plugged in my extension cord I had to remove, I did so and was relieved to see that the cables were labeled. It took no time to pluck what I needed to eject from my space and was able to just as quickly grab the other accessories partnered with the modem and the documents it came with 5 years prior.
For some reason, I was amazed that I was able to pack the items for return quite fast because I had forgotten that I did that – the part where I took the time to place the accessories in a re-sealable bag and labeled it or parked them in the gadget accessories box or tagged the different cables plugged in my extension cord or filed the related documents. I did those some years ago… Now, it was literally pluck, grab, shove in a plastic bag and good riddance! kinda vibe. I was ready to throw them shot put style where it came from. Grar.
Another time, I couldn’t find something and really – it’s kind of impossible to be in this profession and lose something because everything I have has a proper place – supposedly. But I was getting frustrated and couldn’t believe I couldn’t locate the item! Where was it?!! Then I went to check where I would keep it and it was right there! I was like, “Hello?!!! Of course, it’s where I would put it back!” I had forgotten I actually put the item back in its home – it was so automatic that I didn’t even remember I did that. Ageing?
So yeah, sometimes I just surprise myself that I surprise myself, if that makes sense…
So, for all of us who have a lot of things to do and think about, taking a pause, investing a few minutes to choose a proper place for things, labeling that container and putting items back in its home after use, helps us locate items quickly even when years have passed and we’ve forgotten all about them.
Tip: From here on, make it a practice to tag cables of new gadgets (or anything that came with a cable) and its accompanying accessories so parts are permanently identified. However you decide to do this, do keep it simple.
We’ve all been there where there were multiple cables and doodads found and no one knew what it was for so nobody wanted to let go because of fear that it might be important – then it turns out it belonged to an appliance that was already sent to the landfill 6 years ago… meanwhile, the rest of its parts are taking up cabinet space…